1. SOMETHING HE TOLD YOU IN SECRET: Trust is easy to lose and hard to get back. If your partner tells you about a private issue ‘his mom’s breast cancer scare or a poor review at work for example’ keep your mouth shut. He has opened up because he trusts you and your ability to keep what you have been told confidential. You don’t want to break that trust,. Trust is at the core of any relationship. If a partner confides about the skeletons buried deep in his closet, it’s important for you to maintain this confidence. If not the secret runs the risk of being uncovered.
2. THE DETAILS OF YOUR SEX LIFE: Filling others in on what happens on between your sheets makes your intimacy a group event. When you’re not having s3x, how often you have it., his sexual fantasies, the raunchy details of your intimate life should be kept under the covers. Your s3x life shouldn’t become someone else’s fantasy. Not to mention that by learning all about you and your partners likes and dislikes in bed, you put yourself at risk of your friend becoming the confidante and provider of those likes to your partner. If you’re having problems in the bedroom, discuss it with your partner. Otherwise, speak with a therapist who can help you figure out why you’re having these issues.
3. THE RUBBISH PRESENT HE BOUGHT YOU: It is the thought that counts. A gift is a gift. Be grateful that he thought of you. Did he buy you socks for your birthday? Maybe he remembered your favorite pair got eaten in the laundry and was full of good intentions and efforts. Avoid bad mouthing him to your friends about his gift fails; they may never let you live them down. Even if this gift isn’t your taste, tell people that he was so sweet to be thinking of you, and that can never be faulted.
4. WHEN YOUR MOTHER IN LAW PISSES YOU OFF: Be grateful that you have in-laws. You never know when those words will get back to your husband..even worse, them, which could be quite awkward..and make him resentful and defensive. And that will only do more harm than good. Let him rationalize their unkind behavior, or set the situation straight. But telling anyone else who is unable to right any wrongs is wasted breath.
5. MONEY PROBLEMS: Maybe he made a financial mistake. Or he’s having money troubles. Or people are discussing how much their partners earn or who pays for what. Many people are sensitive and insecure about issues that make them look weak, especially when it comes to cash. So, it’s best not to cross that line. Financial details are no one else’s business.
6. THAT ONE OF YOU CHEATED: If you or your partner commits infidelity, keep this dirty laundry on the DL. The less players that are involved, the better. Whether you decide to stay together or split, don’t leave that decision to your mom or BFF. It’s your choice whether the relationship is worth salvaging and repairing or not. You know what’s best for yourself and no one really understands what dynamics are going on. And if you do stay together, you risk tainting your friend’s or family’s perception of your partner. ‘With something as painful as an affair, it’s important to involve a skilled therapist to help you heal from the broken trust and betrayal. To take things a step further, you could create an uncomfortable wedge in your relationship if you were the one to cheat. They’ll be left wondering if you’d go after one of their boyfriends or husbands.
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